Have you ever had the feeling that someone you worked with really disliked you? Sometimes their frustration with you can be so obvious it's hard to ignore. Usually when this happens, you don't have any idea why this person doesn't like you. Conflict can really put a damper on your work day, making your feelings of career satisfaction pretty low, even though you may enjoy the tasks you perform. Uncomfortable relationships at work can ruin a job for you, even if everything else is going great.
So, what should you do when a coworker dislikes you and you have nothing to apologize for?
The Muse gave some great advice for this exact situation in their recent article by Kat Boogard, saying accepting that the two of you will never be friends is a good first start.
"The best thing you can do for your own sanity and professionalism is to just accept that this person will never be starting up a fan club in your honor. You’ll need to find ways to collaborate together on work projects without heated arguments and tons of uncomfortable tension."
The article went on to suggest that you should avoid acting too quickly, and try not to work too hard to understand why they don't like you, since feelings aren't always logical. Decide whether or not the situation could be improved with a discussion between the two of you. If the conflict escalates to a point where it interferes with your work, consider talking to a manager and asking for their advice.
Finally, whenever possible, follow the golden rule and treat them how you would want to be treated, even if you know you can't expect the same in return.
If your current work situation feels beyond repair, please contact us to find out about new job openings in your area where you can get a fresh start. And - for more advice on this and related topics - visit the Career Advice section of our blog.
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