With the prevalence of bullying these days, we often wonder what we can do to avoid having our children or someone we love fall victim to bullies who dominate through intimidation. The key, it seems, is relatively simple: confidence. The truth is, people who are confident are rarely the victims of bullying-- because they don't allow themselves to be. So, what if your child isn't confident? What if you aren't? Luckily, confidence isn't one of those things that you either have or you don't. Thankfully, with a lot of determination and dedication, confidence can be built.
Below are some tips for confidence building for both children and adults:
- Project confidence. Have you ever heard of the saying 'fake it until you make it'? Now's the time to put it into effect. Even when you're feeling unsure, project confidence. Stand tall, make eye contact, and speak up. Be mindful, too, of your body language; sometimes our actions speak louder than our words. Uncross your arms and offer a smile.
- Stop being a people pleaser. The faster you learn that you simply can't please everyone, the more you'll stop worrying about it. Remind yourself that you don't need the approval of everyone around you and that not everyone will agree with your opinions-- and that's okay! As far as relationships are concerned, remember that quality is much more important than quantity.
- Accept compliments. Many of us are guilty of it: someone pays us a nice compliment, and we retort with, "Oh, thanks, but..." Eliminate that 'but' from your response. People are allowed to say nice things about you, and you're allowed to accept the compliment without a qualifier. You are deserving of kind words and praise.
- Stop with the excuses! Being able to accept responsibility for your actions-- even the negative ones-- is an important part of having confidence. We all make mistakes; it's human. Confident people, however, own their mistakes. If you're late to work, apologize and accept responsibility. Don't blame it on the other drivers or the school bus you got stuck behind. Your mistakes are your own.
- Allow yourself to fail. Just like you shouldn't let success inflate your ego, you shouldn't let failure destroy your confidence. Failure is an inevitable part of everyone's life; there's no one who's immune to it. Knowing this, use your next failure as an opportunity for growth: what can you do better next time? Then dust yourself off, get out there and do it.
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