Do you feel like you have to act a certain way at work, and when you go home you can finally be your normal self? Career coach Sara Young Wang encourages you to be yourself at work, too! It is stressful and tiring to try to be someone you aren't.
Take these four steps to change the way you think and act in the workplace.
- Be Willing to Be Rejected. When you show your real self at work, you need courage. Your real self might get rejected. If you pretend to be someone you aren't, then that pretend persona gets hit with rejection, not you. Don't be afraid of rejection; it happens. But it's more likely that people will accept you better when you're acting like yourself.
- Don't Just Assume How You're Supposed to Act. Are you a people-pleaser, always trying to figure out how to act to make people happiest? People-pleasing is difficult to change, but if you want to be yourself, you need to stop acting the way you think others want you to act. In the workplace, you might actually be wrong about your assumptions. Being your own personality might be perfectly acceptable! Think about the flexibility of your work environment. Be honest. How flexible is it? Can you show up with your individual work style and opinions and still be respected?
- Speak Up! Don't be afraid to raise issues that you are concerned about. Your employer can't read your mind. Talk about things that you need. You won't get it unless you ask for it. Feel scared? Go back to #1. It's worth it to be rejected. You also should remember that your employer will benefit if you are able to do your best work.
- You Don't Need to be Like Other People. Don't feel pressured to conform to the image of your colleagues. If you are doing your job to the best of your ability, then that's what matters. Excellent results speak for themselves. Be you. Respect your colleagues, and hopefully they will return the favor.
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