There are people who think that if you're not in a hurry to meet Mr. (or Mrs.) Right and settle down, you must be in need of counseling. After all, life is focused around relationships, right? If you don't enjoy being with people, you must be dealing with depression. A little counseling, a little time out with your close friends, and you'll be ready to take on the world again. Surely that "loner" perspective is just the result of a bad experience, or a negative time in your life...right? Actually, not necessarily.
Some people just prefer to do things by themselves --and there's nothing wrong with that.
While there are certainly people who prefer to spend their lives surrounded by others, and who cringe at the idea of experiencing even ordinary experiences (like, for example, the movie or restaurant trips mentioned in the linked article) without an entourage, there are others who are perfectly comfortable going out solo. Whether it's a trip around the world or a long-anticipated movie, they'd rather take on the world alone and don't feel the need to surround themselves with people just to do the things that they enjoy.
If you're one of the people who has this mentality, you're likely very independent. It isn't that you don't enjoy the company of others; it's just that you're able to handle your life without needing to include them. You aren't spouse hunting (though you don't object to dating, and may even assume that you'll find someone to settle down with eventually). It's just that you don't mind the wait; and in the meantime, you're enjoying life to the fullest. Likely even after you do find a partner, you'll continue to enjoy solo pursuits.
That's perfectly normal, and doesn't mean that there's something wrong with you. You're not antisocial, or painfully introverted; it's just that you're comfortable living life as who you are, without needing to take another person's needs into consideration with every choice that you make. In fact, this mindset can even be a positive force in your life. Who needs someone else's opinion to make a simple decision? Certainly not you.
You're probably independent enough that you can seek out information on your own; but - to learn more about this and similar topics - visit the Mental Health section of the Staffing Plus blog.
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