Every day, we think about ways to improve our lives. But what exactly is keeping us from creating a fulfilling life? How can we begin to identify the stresses that lead us to feel unmotivated or unproductive?
Here are three big barriers to our lives, and how we can overcome them.
- You seem to attract negative thoughts, emotions and people. You tend to view the glass half empty, and always have something to complain about or stress over. And the people you're surrounded by seem to feed a black hole of negative emotions as well, drawing you all into a downward spiral.
Solution: Start de-magnetizing yourself. Become a positive charge by actively seeking positive people. In addition, think more happy, positive thoughts, and reflect on things to be proud or happy about. Focus finding solutions for complaints, or changing that glass into a full, abundant one.
- You can't move on from past mistakes. Whether it was losing a competition or not completing a particular goal, you're stuck dwelling on what went wrong, what could have been done, all the "what ifs" that didn't happen.
Solution: Think critically about what exactly is holding you back, then let it go. Realize that there's nothing you could do now, except for moving forward and thinking about new solutions, new goals, and new accomplishments that are waiting for your action.
- You are always comparing yourself to others. This, in turn, makes you think negatively about where you are in your life, especially as you "measure" yourself up to others.
Solution: Break the mold and create your own standards! You are your own person, with your own strengths and weaknesses. Acknowledge that while maybe someone else has more money or more success in your career than you, you also have things they wish they had as well. Learn to recognize things you have and be thankful of that, whether it's a loving family to take care of, a house to come home to, or just having a job you're happy with. Your own self-improvement comes from creating your own goals, not by measuring yourself against someone else's metrics.
Lifehack lists 47 other things that might be hindering your growth, but these three listed here speak to a lot of us challenging with self-improvement. To learn more about this and related topics, visit the Self-Improvement or Productivity sections of our blog.
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